Julia asked my why I didn't come to her and talk about it. Well duh, because minutes after I posted this she got so offended she already turned her blog private. Are you kidding me. Had I said it in person nothing different would have happened accept that I would have had to see her reaction. That is what blogs are for to talk about your feelings. I realize that she has had a miscarriage before. But that was very early in a pregnancy. I can understand the worry to a certain point, but now, this far along there comes a point where I can't hear about it anymore. Rather then making her blog private she should have written a real response saying she was sorry that she had such little concern for what I was feeling, and explained that aside from EVERY SINGLE POST SHE HAS WRITTEN she really was happy about this and that she really does have positive things to say about it. However she chose to put her blog private and act like a child about it. Really. This was just one person sharing her feelings and for her to over react this bad is silly and amusing to me!
Even as I sit here typing this, my stomach is full of cramps, I'm having a hard time sitting up and still STILL I'm not going on and on I'm being positive. I guess maybe rather then going private and pouting about it, she should have stopped to notice that this was obviously my way of letting her know, I feel like she is being very disrespectful of me and not even realizing her words are really hurting me.
However, I did not confront her because I already knew how sensitive she is and I couldn't deal with it in person. IN FACT I forwarded this blog to 3 people before I published it, and I told all three of them, this person is so sensitive she is going to put her blog private rather then talk about what happened and try and stop and see it from my perspective. And I'll be damned if I didn't hit the nail right on the head!
7.25.2007
SEEEEE WHAT I MEAN
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My blog is not private. I was thinking about it but then I wrote a response to your accusations.
And I am done talking about this. I really don't need any more drama in my life...
I guess this is your opinion and you really do not know me so that's fine. I know that the truth is way different and that's all that matters.
Honestly, I back you 100% and see where you are coming from. You have every right to feel that way and if I were in your situation, I would get upset reading the same thing. If you have read my blog, you will see that I touched on that. I have been wondering when you were going to break.
Julia, I wish that you would just for a second sit back and really think about Shannon is trying to say. She isn't trying to hurt you or make accusations. She is simply trying to explain to you how she feels. She is telling you how reading her blog affects her. I think givin her current situation, she is more than entitled to feeling the way that she does. It is one thing to "hope" that your baby is ok, but that is all that you say. You are having a wonderful pregnancy. Your baby is moving around constantly. Every doctor visit has been great. In no way was she trying to create drama. She has called me out on her blog as well. She doesn't do it to be mean.
I guess all I can suggest is for you to many just stop and think about where she is coming from. Think about her feeling without getting your emotions involved and taking it so personal. I know that there are many people that have read your blog and have thought the same things. I am sure you are happy about being pregnant and we are all happy for you.
Shannon, well done. You did what was good for you and right for you. You were actually very nice about it. I just want you to know that I support you.
So I kind of stumbled into this from Swistle's blog.
I can only speak from my own experience. I had two late term losses (I won't say months, to worry anyone because everyone's situation is different and this was just mine...and it doesn't normally happen, even with bleeding and cramping) and then we conceived my son. And I worried, and fretted, and fixated... and, like you, really didn't think I was going to have this baby. I mean, in my mind, what made this time different when they couldn't figure out the other two times what had gone wrong? I pretty much kept it to myself and outwardly vented it in some pretty stupid ways. Not speaking to my mother-in-law because she threw me a surprise shower and I felt she was "jinxing" me, and yet I never told her why I froze her out. Not bringing any babycare stuff into the house...basically not even acknowledging that I was pregnant. It was hell, I handled it badly, and I can't go back. I became pregnant once again after our son, and lost that baby to miscarriage, and I do have to say (being in both situations) both hurt, just as badly. To have something that you are already naming, and dreaming and planning about sucks (at least, in my opinion) when it is ripped away. His name was Benjamin, even though he was itty bitty when I lost him. And he existed, just as much as my other children..to me. I guess what I am trying to say, is that we cannot truly know what another has been through...and there is no measuring stick for how something like this can affect a person.
Please do not misunderstand me, because I don't know you at all, I think you are completely entitled to vent your opinion on your blog. I also think you are right in some ways but I think this situation is just too convoluted to rationalize.
I wish you all the health in the world to grow a happy little baby. Please take care of yourself, first and foremost. ~Laura
I had a miscarriage in my first pregnancy, went on to have two healthy kids. In the end, worrying about it won't help and your friends should respect that. Be well.
Okay, I try. First I want to say, that I started to read your blog a couple of month ago by accident while reading another blog. And I stay because I like your way of writing very much, its mostly funny, but even honestly, sometimes sad but not dejected. I especially like your Food-Blogs... Its my obsession too *lol* I know I would die if I never more can eat oreo cookies for the rest of my life. But okay, thats not the topic now.
I know you go through hard weeks by being bedrested and I would say you deal really well with that. And I read about your fear that you are a bad mom to make Codi stay instead of let him go if he would. NO, because I am sure he want to stay, and he needs your help to stay and so you do right in every thing you do to supported him. And I know, at least you are a great mom for Brandon. Thats therefor as a presentation of mine.
Now why I decided to post right now and here in this topic. I know Julia long ago, and I know, that, instead of what she is writing about Drama in her life, she is the drama-queen herself. I know she is very sensible but I know nothing someone else can say will take her out of her opinion. Its sad, but give up trying. Its normal, that everything is mad for her and on the highest top of her hapiness she will always find something to be mad with. For a while you can deal with that and try to support her, but one day its enough and you want to scream to her "Look what you can be happy for, please the hell stop crying and perpetual nagging".
I don't know if you have a very close relationship to her, but I wish that if you would and she could, you can talk about the whole thing and she once noticed that she don't rented the whole shit for herself and eachother of you is able to support the other for the rest of your both pregnancy.
I wrote that, because in my opinion you doing fine to decided to wrote about the whole think honestly, and you don't have to reproach yourself of being honest.
Okay, now I stop writing romans, I wish you all the best for the next weeks and month and that you will ever had Icecream in your house. *lol*
Bye Rilly
Hi Shannon,
you don't know me, I read your blog every now and than and this is the first time Im gonna write a comment. First off all, everybody has the right to blog and say what he thinks. But does it gives us the right to judge over other people problems. Everybody has a package to carry, some small, some big. I heard about your bleedings and that you are on bedrest now. I'm sorry for that. Should everybody be happy if this is not happen to yourself? Yes! Is everybody happy? No!!! Somebody thinks it's terrible to have swollen hands and feet in pregnancy. Well, duh! It happens. But sometimes you can't focus on the real important things, and that is when you are pregnant in my opinion to have a healthy baby at the end. You said, when the baby is kicking around everything should be fine. But sometimes it isn't. I have a high risk pregnancy, I had a misscarrige before and the chance, that my baby is gonna have some sort of disease is high. And I tell you I'm worried every second when I'm not feeling him. I don't know if he is alright or not, and nobody can give me the answer for that. Is Julias Baby gonna be healthy?? I don't know. It looks like that! But how should I know and how should she know??? So she has the right to be worried! I can't call myself a friend of her, I met her once and we wrote each other every now and than. Yes sometimes I think too, Oh come on it's not that bad! When she is whining about something. But I never would tell her to stop worrying. I think it's totally normal when you become a mom or being a mom. You maybe have another opinion, because you are already a mom of a perfect little boy. But being worried doesn't mean that you don't enjoy your pregnancy. I said before I'm worried all the time, but I also be happy out of my mind about that this baby in me is growing and decided to stay with me this time. I hope for you guys that you find a way to talk about all of this. I know how it is being in a new town/state/country and I know that Julia probably need all the friends that she can get, because she is new and maybe very lonley. And I also hope that we all gonna end up with perfect healthy babies, and than start fighting about who changed the most poopy diapers.
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